I've learned a lot about the people this world.
Some are fun loving, some are pessimistic, others are productive, and others live to be lazy. I've met all sorts of people, and I've realized that every person has all of these traits, whether or not they want to admit it or realize it.
Most people choose their "best" and project it, and in the end it usually works out. Others, it does not always work out as well. I wish there was a guideline or a template of what an "ideal" personality was like, but I suppose that is not the case.
I know that there are people like me, who want to change the ways and mindsets of other people. As much as I try to think rationally about and attempt to ignore the qualities I don't care for, it is impossible, and I'm sure others would agree. This reason alone causes people to dispute and argue and is even the cause of wars.
But what do you do when a person you care about chooses a path that is against your philosophy? Maybe you saw it coming, maybe you didn't. Maybe you changed your philosophy multiple times and they followed suit, only to decide on something different from yours. I would love to agree to disagree, but what if that aspect of the respective philosophy's plays a leading role in the lives of the people? Then what?
You move forward. You realize that times have changed. And you move along. Or, you come to grips with it, and deal. And you realize that the relationship with the friend, significant, family member will either remain static, or will fade.
Q
Thursday, April 2, 2009
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
Tough Exterior, Super Soft Interior
This is again a purely venting post, but it's also something I'd love to ask of anyone who has the ability.
Adopt a dog! There are millions of dogs in shelters and rescue programs that deserve loving homes.
There is one thing I swear to do when I have the means. I'm going to adopt a german shepherd; likely a senior. Any senior dog hits the soft spot of my heart.
At home I have a beautiful 13-year old cardigan welsh corgi, Maris, whom I miss on a daily basis. You can see her age in her face, her eyes, and in her lazy daily schedule.
But when that show lead comes out, she becomes a pup and shows her heart out for me!
Here are a few pics of my beautiful old lady.
I miss my dogs.
Adopt a dog! There are millions of dogs in shelters and rescue programs that deserve loving homes.
There is one thing I swear to do when I have the means. I'm going to adopt a german shepherd; likely a senior. Any senior dog hits the soft spot of my heart.
At home I have a beautiful 13-year old cardigan welsh corgi, Maris, whom I miss on a daily basis. You can see her age in her face, her eyes, and in her lazy daily schedule.
But when that show lead comes out, she becomes a pup and shows her heart out for me!
Here are a few pics of my beautiful old lady.
I miss my dogs.
Q
10 Things to Do Daily for a Happier Life
I've read a lot of lists of "what to do to improve your quality of life" and "things to realize that make you special" and what not. I'm not religious to these ten, but I hope to be eventually. This is just my personal list of what should be done on a daily basis to keep one's sanity.
1) Spend 5-10 minutes alone, quietly reflecting on your day ahead/behind. Don't take any calls or text during this time. Just relax. Smile to yourself.
2) Talk to someone who cares about you. It does not matter if it's your roommate, your friend at home, your mother, or a therapist. You need to be reminded that you matter and are capable of great things.
3) Realize that while you are important, others are important too. Let a friend vent to you without interruption or distraction.
4) Similarly to number 3, realize and grasp that life is not fair. It never was, and it never will be. Don't take it personally.
5) Make it a goal to make another person laugh. It will help improve their day.
6) Accomplish something. Make a to-do list, and accomplish something on it. Ex. finishing a report, calling your mother, sending a thank you card. You'll feel good afterward.
7) When a situation arises, ask yourself if it will matter still in a year. If yes, then worry about it and find a solution. If not, then don't.
8) Be realistic. People are not set out to make you happy. Only you control your happiness. Granted, others can help, but only if you let them.
9) Spend 10 minutes each day studying up on the news. It may not make you happy, but it will make you more knowledgeable and will keep you up to speed with the rest of the world.
10) When you lay to bed at night, think about how your day went briefly, then think about the next day and what lies ahead. Switch gears, and think about someone or something in your life that makes your life worth living. You'll sleep well tonight.
Q
1) Spend 5-10 minutes alone, quietly reflecting on your day ahead/behind. Don't take any calls or text during this time. Just relax. Smile to yourself.
2) Talk to someone who cares about you. It does not matter if it's your roommate, your friend at home, your mother, or a therapist. You need to be reminded that you matter and are capable of great things.
3) Realize that while you are important, others are important too. Let a friend vent to you without interruption or distraction.
4) Similarly to number 3, realize and grasp that life is not fair. It never was, and it never will be. Don't take it personally.
5) Make it a goal to make another person laugh. It will help improve their day.
6) Accomplish something. Make a to-do list, and accomplish something on it. Ex. finishing a report, calling your mother, sending a thank you card. You'll feel good afterward.
7) When a situation arises, ask yourself if it will matter still in a year. If yes, then worry about it and find a solution. If not, then don't.
8) Be realistic. People are not set out to make you happy. Only you control your happiness. Granted, others can help, but only if you let them.
9) Spend 10 minutes each day studying up on the news. It may not make you happy, but it will make you more knowledgeable and will keep you up to speed with the rest of the world.
10) When you lay to bed at night, think about how your day went briefly, then think about the next day and what lies ahead. Switch gears, and think about someone or something in your life that makes your life worth living. You'll sleep well tonight.
Q
Monday, March 30, 2009
Crazy Semester
It's been awhile since I've last posted, so I thought I'd post about something that has been restricting my time.
There are a few things I've learned about being a Hanover College Student.
1) Not everybody knows each other, despite the campus' size (less than 1,000 students). Which makes it interesting because you can still meet new people!
2) Despite not knowing everybody, you've at least seen everybody on the campus, so there aren't many new faces; merely new friends. Example: "Hey, weren't you in my *insert class name here* class with me last semester? I thought I recognized you!"
3) Hanover students work about twice as hard as students at other colleges, on average.
4) Every semester, there will be one class that is the class that you either complain about consistently or struggle in consistently, no matter how much you study.
5) Every semester, there is a period of 2-5 days, usually 2-3 weeks before finals week, in which every student on campus is stressed at the same time, to the point of screaming, killing themselves and others. Okay not really, but there is a point in which everybody is so stressed that no one can tolerate to even look at each other for an extended period of time without snapping. So you folks at home, don't mess with these students during this sensitive time in the semester.
That is all.
Q
Oh, and mononucleosis is a drag.
Q
There are a few things I've learned about being a Hanover College Student.
1) Not everybody knows each other, despite the campus' size (less than 1,000 students). Which makes it interesting because you can still meet new people!
2) Despite not knowing everybody, you've at least seen everybody on the campus, so there aren't many new faces; merely new friends. Example: "Hey, weren't you in my *insert class name here* class with me last semester? I thought I recognized you!"
3) Hanover students work about twice as hard as students at other colleges, on average.
4) Every semester, there will be one class that is the class that you either complain about consistently or struggle in consistently, no matter how much you study.
5) Every semester, there is a period of 2-5 days, usually 2-3 weeks before finals week, in which every student on campus is stressed at the same time, to the point of screaming, killing themselves and others. Okay not really, but there is a point in which everybody is so stressed that no one can tolerate to even look at each other for an extended period of time without snapping. So you folks at home, don't mess with these students during this sensitive time in the semester.
That is all.
Q
Oh, and mononucleosis is a drag.
Q
Thursday, March 19, 2009
Purely Venting
Okay, so I know I say I'm in a stage right now where I'm not interested in anybody, but in truth, I kind of am. I can't help it. It's human nature to want to be with some one and it's my nature to feel lonely when I haven't had much social interaction (which I haven't had lately because of the mono).
So, here's the thing. A strong part of me is very much in love with my best friend. I know this, he knows this, my friends know this. When we aren't together (i.e. I'm at school or whatever) I totally feel it, 100% of the time. It's a deep feeling that I haven't felt in a long time, and I know it's real. Whenever he's out with friends, I'm jealous, and that is just me caring! I know it is! I've learned this from myself over time. But I wouldn't be jealous of someone that I only cared about as a friend would I? No!
Anyway, sitting here, typing away while he's 100 miles away is when I feel it the most. I miss him, I love him, and I know he feels the same way. Do I love him because he loves me? Or is it legitimate? That is an entirely different question that will be dealt with at a later date. Moving on!
Then, when we are actually together, the feelings fade. How? Why? I have no idea. They just aren't as strong or they aren't there at all. This might be a bad sign! I've never had this before and God knows I don't know what it means. *pause to think*
Why would the feelings fade? Am I creating some perfect image of a man in my head and then realizing that image isn't real when I see him?
That sounded very mean. He's wonderful, just not perfect. Nobody is. I'm not. Lord help me, I'm not even close.
But I can't decide if it would work or not.
And here is the other thing: I'm in love again with one of my ex's! Wait, strike that. I never fell out of love with him. We only broke up because of circumstance. I'm still very much in love with him but I have no idea if we'll ever live close enough together again to make it work. I would love it if it did, because I really felt that he was the one. I think he felt it too. But we were in high school (and barely in college). A lot has changed. Maybe I shouldn't keep my hopes up.
But here's the thing. I kind of do want to keep my hopes up. Because I was very much in love with him. And what if the thing with my best friend doesn't work out? What if I do realize that I just love him as a friend and nothing more? Then my heart is open to my ex again.
I can't rule anybody out right now. And I can't date anybody right now because it wouldn't be fair to them.
Hm.
Q
So, here's the thing. A strong part of me is very much in love with my best friend. I know this, he knows this, my friends know this. When we aren't together (i.e. I'm at school or whatever) I totally feel it, 100% of the time. It's a deep feeling that I haven't felt in a long time, and I know it's real. Whenever he's out with friends, I'm jealous, and that is just me caring! I know it is! I've learned this from myself over time. But I wouldn't be jealous of someone that I only cared about as a friend would I? No!
Anyway, sitting here, typing away while he's 100 miles away is when I feel it the most. I miss him, I love him, and I know he feels the same way. Do I love him because he loves me? Or is it legitimate? That is an entirely different question that will be dealt with at a later date. Moving on!
Then, when we are actually together, the feelings fade. How? Why? I have no idea. They just aren't as strong or they aren't there at all. This might be a bad sign! I've never had this before and God knows I don't know what it means. *pause to think*
Why would the feelings fade? Am I creating some perfect image of a man in my head and then realizing that image isn't real when I see him?
That sounded very mean. He's wonderful, just not perfect. Nobody is. I'm not. Lord help me, I'm not even close.
But I can't decide if it would work or not.
And here is the other thing: I'm in love again with one of my ex's! Wait, strike that. I never fell out of love with him. We only broke up because of circumstance. I'm still very much in love with him but I have no idea if we'll ever live close enough together again to make it work. I would love it if it did, because I really felt that he was the one. I think he felt it too. But we were in high school (and barely in college). A lot has changed. Maybe I shouldn't keep my hopes up.
But here's the thing. I kind of do want to keep my hopes up. Because I was very much in love with him. And what if the thing with my best friend doesn't work out? What if I do realize that I just love him as a friend and nothing more? Then my heart is open to my ex again.
I can't rule anybody out right now. And I can't date anybody right now because it wouldn't be fair to them.
Hm.
Q
Tuesday, March 17, 2009
Piles of Chocolate
This past weekend I tested positive for mono, so I've been taking it easy here at school, going to class when I can, and resting the majority of the time.
My father called and said, "Hey, I want to come visit you and see how you're doing."
I say, "Sure, sounds good."
He says, "Can I bring you anything?"
I say, "Chocolate. I'm craving some chocolate."
Well, not knowing exactly what I wanted, my father sent out one of his employees to buy me some chocolate.
I thought I'd share what was brought to me.
Want any?
Q
My father called and said, "Hey, I want to come visit you and see how you're doing."
I say, "Sure, sounds good."
He says, "Can I bring you anything?"
I say, "Chocolate. I'm craving some chocolate."
Well, not knowing exactly what I wanted, my father sent out one of his employees to buy me some chocolate.
I thought I'd share what was brought to me.
Okay, let's make a list:
- One 6-pack Hershey's Milk Chocolate Bunnies
- One 6-pack Hershey's Milk Chocolate Bunnies
- Two York Peppermint Patties
- One 2-pack King Size Heath Bars
- One 3-pack Dove "Silky Smooth Milk Chocolate" bar
- One pound milk chocolate Easter themed M&M's
- Three Cadbury Creme Eggs
- Four 3-pack generic decorated marshmallow treats
- One 12-pack Little Debbie Big Pack Cosmic Brownies
- One 30 count Hershey's Variety Pack including full size bars of Hershey's chocolate, Hershey's chocolate plus Almonds, Kit Kats, Reese's Cups, and some other type of Reese's bar
- many hot chocolate mixes in many varieties
I wish I had a calorie count on this.
Seriously though, who needs all this?! My God.
Want any?
Q
Monday, March 9, 2009
Is it me? I'm not sure what I do to attract these kinds of people. All I've been hunting for is a few good friends, and I guess I'm not as appealing as a friend as I used to be (though others have argued otherwise). Thoughts? I know I'm really talking to myself here, but I just don't get why some people think it's okay to lift themselves up by bringing others down. Such is life.
Here are some beautiful images that I've found while Stumbling. Seriously, if you don't Stumble, there is something wrong with you. It's the best. Note: None of these images are mine.
Q
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