There have been many people in my life who have helped me by loving me, hating me, complimenting me, criticizing me, and picking me up when they've pushed me down. These experiences may not have been pleasant, but they are all a part of me and will always be with me, for better or for worse.
No matter how much we want to change the past, we can't. We have to deal with that. Think in the present and plan for the future! The future is in our control and we can change it if we want to. If you want to feel happier, take steps to being happier. If you want to be smarter, faster, stronger, kinder, thinner, braver, better, take steps now! What are you waiting for?
If you don't like a trait, take steps to change in so you don't have to deal with it in the future, which will quickly be the past again! If you are struggling in a relationship, figure out how to fix it. That might be getting help from family and friends, seeing someone professionally, or leaving the relationship altogether. Successfully completing any of the former options makes a person stronger and is something to be proud of.
Once you accomplish it, you'll have to maintain it. This won't require as much help. However, you don't want to fall over backwards. If you are motivated and willing and able to become a certain way, you certainly have the ability to maintain it.
"Work It Harder Make It Better
Do It Faster, Makes Us Stronger
More Than Ever Hour After
Our Work Is Never Over"
- Daft Punk
Everyone needs help. Everyone.
"No matter what accomplishments you make, somebody helps you."
- Althea Gibson
Again, e-v-e-r-y-o-n-e needs help.
Those who get help are the successful ones. Some may need more help than others, but everyone needs it. Do not be ashamed, embarrassed, or frustrated by the fact that you need help. You are not alone. Again, you are not alone. You aren't the first and you won't be the last.
You are able. You do matter. People love you and want to help you. I promise you that.
Q
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
I hope this is true
I just adore this song. But right now the lyrics are telling me about my life. I hope these words are true and I know I've heard most of them.
The Reason lyrics
I'm not a perfect person
There's many things I wish I didn't do
But I continue learning
I never meant to do those things to you
And so I have to say before I go
That I just want you to know
I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is you
I'm sorry that I hurt you
It's something I must live with everyday
And all the pain I put you through
I wish that I could take it all away
And be the one who catches all your tears
That's why I need you to hear
I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is You [x4]
I'm not a perfect person
I never meant to do those things to you
And so I have to say before I go
That I just want you to know
I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is you
I've found a reason to show
A side of me you didn't know
A reason for all that I do
And the reason is you
The Reason lyrics
I'm not a perfect person
There's many things I wish I didn't do
But I continue learning
I never meant to do those things to you
And so I have to say before I go
That I just want you to know
I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is you
I'm sorry that I hurt you
It's something I must live with everyday
And all the pain I put you through
I wish that I could take it all away
And be the one who catches all your tears
That's why I need you to hear
I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is You [x4]
I'm not a perfect person
I never meant to do those things to you
And so I have to say before I go
That I just want you to know
I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is you
I've found a reason to show
A side of me you didn't know
A reason for all that I do
And the reason is you
Monday, August 24, 2009
Friendship Stats
According to http://www.friendshipstats.com...
I have 372 friends, 252 more than average.
58% are male, 42% are female.
110 are single, 145 are dating or married.
If I contracted a deadly variant of flu, I would likely infect 12 people, 2 of whom would die.
When I share something on Facebook, it is typically viewed by 25 people.
If I died today, an estimated 486 people would try to attend my funeral.
Based on my Facebook profile, I have a 92% probability of getting married.
I am likely to earn US$3.6 million and have 2.4 children over my lifetime.
Yay. :)
Q
I have 372 friends, 252 more than average.
58% are male, 42% are female.
110 are single, 145 are dating or married.
If I contracted a deadly variant of flu, I would likely infect 12 people, 2 of whom would die.
When I share something on Facebook, it is typically viewed by 25 people.
If I died today, an estimated 486 people would try to attend my funeral.
Based on my Facebook profile, I have a 92% probability of getting married.
I am likely to earn US$3.6 million and have 2.4 children over my lifetime.
Yay. :)
Q
Thursday, July 9, 2009
I am a Fantastic Person, Really
Challenge #3: Improving My Self-Esteem
No matter how many times Nathan tells me I'm beautiful, how often professors say I'm smart, or my friends say I'm strong, I don't always believe it. I try so hard to, but I tend to forget when I need it the most.
So, here's to arrogance for a few sentences:
I am smart, attractive, accomplished, and able. Very little can stand in my way. I change for me, and for nobody else. I care for myself just as I care for others. I am important, worth while, and I deserve good things. I have a driving force that is carrying me through my college years. There are people in my life who love me and care for me, even if I can't see them through the fog. I feel better after venting, and most outlets for stress are acceptable, including sharing that stress with friends. I don't need to apologize for the way I am.
There we go. I feel better now. While this paragraph is tailored to me, each person out there has a list of amazing accomplishments that they may or may not be aware of. I encourage you to write yours, or ask me and I can write it.
Challenge #3: Work in Progress
Q
Could this double as a personals ad? Maybe not.
No matter how many times Nathan tells me I'm beautiful, how often professors say I'm smart, or my friends say I'm strong, I don't always believe it. I try so hard to, but I tend to forget when I need it the most.
So, here's to arrogance for a few sentences:
I am smart, attractive, accomplished, and able. Very little can stand in my way. I change for me, and for nobody else. I care for myself just as I care for others. I am important, worth while, and I deserve good things. I have a driving force that is carrying me through my college years. There are people in my life who love me and care for me, even if I can't see them through the fog. I feel better after venting, and most outlets for stress are acceptable, including sharing that stress with friends. I don't need to apologize for the way I am.
There we go. I feel better now. While this paragraph is tailored to me, each person out there has a list of amazing accomplishments that they may or may not be aware of. I encourage you to write yours, or ask me and I can write it.
Challenge #3: Work in Progress
Q
Could this double as a personals ad? Maybe not.
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Quoting Dr. Dodge
Challenge #2 Tolerating Others' Life Styles
If I've learned anything in my year-long experience with Dr. Dodge, professor of Economics at Hanover College, is that he doesn't tolerate laziness and whining. If a person is lazy about getting their work done and fails to do so, then there is no point for them to be wasting money on school. Laziness at work sometimes slide, but in an economy like this, it'll lose you your job in a heartbeat.
I used to be lazy, for sure. I wouldn't finish all my homework in high school, I'd half-ass study for tests, and my grades proved it to be true. Going to Hanover taught me that half-assing your way through life is a waste of time, space, and money. I despise people who simply glide on the accomplishments of others. My strong drive now started out much weaker before I entered drumline.
Drumline taught me that people have to strive for their goals, or else it isn't worth any effort. Teamwork was very essential, because if one person wasn't pulling their weight, the whole drumline became a joke. One missed note, one wrong step, and the judges lose focus on the good and comment on the errors made.
Then getting into college showed me that laziness is just a waste of money, whether it's your money or your parents'.
Don't waste time. You only have 100 years to live, and a third of that time is spent sleeping. So you really only have 66 or so years to live and cherish it.
Yes, people can stress to the point of yelling, but they are also living and striving towards a goal. Motivation comes in many forms, and one of the biggest motivators is setting a goal for yourself. Try it. Try spending time with motivated people. Start small, and eventually you'll strive towards bigger and better things. Never settle for reality.
Challenge #2 Failed.
Q
If I've learned anything in my year-long experience with Dr. Dodge, professor of Economics at Hanover College, is that he doesn't tolerate laziness and whining. If a person is lazy about getting their work done and fails to do so, then there is no point for them to be wasting money on school. Laziness at work sometimes slide, but in an economy like this, it'll lose you your job in a heartbeat.
I used to be lazy, for sure. I wouldn't finish all my homework in high school, I'd half-ass study for tests, and my grades proved it to be true. Going to Hanover taught me that half-assing your way through life is a waste of time, space, and money. I despise people who simply glide on the accomplishments of others. My strong drive now started out much weaker before I entered drumline.
Drumline taught me that people have to strive for their goals, or else it isn't worth any effort. Teamwork was very essential, because if one person wasn't pulling their weight, the whole drumline became a joke. One missed note, one wrong step, and the judges lose focus on the good and comment on the errors made.
Then getting into college showed me that laziness is just a waste of money, whether it's your money or your parents'.
Don't waste time. You only have 100 years to live, and a third of that time is spent sleeping. So you really only have 66 or so years to live and cherish it.
Yes, people can stress to the point of yelling, but they are also living and striving towards a goal. Motivation comes in many forms, and one of the biggest motivators is setting a goal for yourself. Try it. Try spending time with motivated people. Start small, and eventually you'll strive towards bigger and better things. Never settle for reality.
Challenge #2 Failed.
Q
Sunday, June 28, 2009
Miss Independent
This is for those who want to know a bit about me, or are simply looking for some inspiration.
I've faced various challenges and obstacles in my brief existence.
Challenge #1: Becoming independent from men.
I was successfully independent from men after a crippling break up this past October, and enjoyed every minute of loneliness until Nathan reappeared in my life in April. I was able to fall in love again and possibly for the last time. I was able to do this because I had taken the necessary and much needed time to be alone for long enough to realize what was truly important to me. This is something I highly recommend for any person struggling with relationships. You can't see the whole picture until you step back far enough to bring it all into your field of vision.
Nathan allows me to be independent and has helped me become more self-aware. I'm now able to see clearly how I react in various situations, some of which I would resort to old habits. Since I had time to realize what I wanted in a person, I was also able to alter my drawbacks to the best of my ability. Obviously I won't cater to him or change for anybody but myself, but I am a better person than I used to be.
Challenge #1: Check.
Challenge #2: Coming soon!
Q
I've faced various challenges and obstacles in my brief existence.
Challenge #1: Becoming independent from men.
I was successfully independent from men after a crippling break up this past October, and enjoyed every minute of loneliness until Nathan reappeared in my life in April. I was able to fall in love again and possibly for the last time. I was able to do this because I had taken the necessary and much needed time to be alone for long enough to realize what was truly important to me. This is something I highly recommend for any person struggling with relationships. You can't see the whole picture until you step back far enough to bring it all into your field of vision.
Nathan allows me to be independent and has helped me become more self-aware. I'm now able to see clearly how I react in various situations, some of which I would resort to old habits. Since I had time to realize what I wanted in a person, I was also able to alter my drawbacks to the best of my ability. Obviously I won't cater to him or change for anybody but myself, but I am a better person than I used to be.
Challenge #1: Check.
Challenge #2: Coming soon!
Q
Friday, May 29, 2009
Here's to you
Today I spent my morning with my dear friend Drew. While clumsily swinging at a tennis ball back and forth, we shared a conversation, provoked by him.
He asked, "So, Nate? How long have you known him?"
I said, "Well, pretty much my entire life, but we reconnected in high school, and that's where we became such great friends."
Drew - "So what made you start dating him?"
Me - "Well, I guess I finally realized that he's always been there for me, and that I do really care for him, so I thought we could give it a shot. He had liked me for awhile, but I was always with someone else. I, haha, feel as though I had a bit of an epiphany, realizing that I had strong feelings for him! So I told him."
Drew - "On behalf of every man in this world, THANK YOU!"
Me - "Haha, what do you mean?"
Drew - "Do you know how many men live their entire lives in love with their best friend, always wishing for something more, but always been told that they're a 'good friend'? I'm sure Nate was excited to hear you say that to him."
You know, we're taking a big risk, and I'm scared out of my mind. But I want it. It's thrilling. There are many obstacles, but we can conquer them; I know we can.
Q
He asked, "So, Nate? How long have you known him?"
I said, "Well, pretty much my entire life, but we reconnected in high school, and that's where we became such great friends."
Drew - "So what made you start dating him?"
Me - "Well, I guess I finally realized that he's always been there for me, and that I do really care for him, so I thought we could give it a shot. He had liked me for awhile, but I was always with someone else. I, haha, feel as though I had a bit of an epiphany, realizing that I had strong feelings for him! So I told him."
Drew - "On behalf of every man in this world, THANK YOU!"
Me - "Haha, what do you mean?"
Drew - "Do you know how many men live their entire lives in love with their best friend, always wishing for something more, but always been told that they're a 'good friend'? I'm sure Nate was excited to hear you say that to him."
You know, we're taking a big risk, and I'm scared out of my mind. But I want it. It's thrilling. There are many obstacles, but we can conquer them; I know we can.
Q
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